10 Embarrassing Massage Questions
Do you tip? Are you supposed to be nude? Do you say anything if the pressure's
not deep enough? What if you're self-conscious about your body? Here are the answers to ten massage questions you want to
ask, but may be too embarrassed to.
1) Am I supposed to tip my massage therapist?
If you get a massage at a spa
or hotel, a 15% to 20% tip is standard if you were pleased
with the services.
On the other hand, there are no real ground rules or norms when it comes to
massage in a medical setting. Some massage therapists and massage associations I asked said tipping isn't appropriate in a medical or clinical setting.
If you're not sure, don't be afraid to ask if tipping is customary. You can call ahead to ask if you don't want to do it face to face.
If tipping isn't the norm, you can always show your appreciation by referring
friends, family and co-workers to the massage therapist.
2) Am I supposed to take off my underwear when I get a massage?
Many people prefer to keep their panties or briefs on during a massage, while
others prefer to be completely nude. It's up to you.
If your problem areas are your lower back, hips, buttocks, or groin, tight-fitting
underwear can sometimes get in the way of massage work, but a thong for women or briefs
for men should do the trick.
In North America, if you do remove your underwear, licensed massage therapists
must ensure that you are always properly covered by a sheet or towel. Only the area being massaged will be uncovered.
3) What if I realize I've drooled during the massage?
Many people fall into a peaceful slumber during the massage but when they wake
up, they notice a pool of drool on the pillow or massage table.
This is very
common. It often happens
when people are being massaged while lying face down on the massage table. Don't be afraid to ask
the massage therapist for a tissue.
4) Will the massage therapist be there when I undress?
In North America, the massage therapist will leave the room so that you can remove
your clothing and lie on the massage table (usually face down) under the top sheet.
Don't rush or worry that the massage therapist will walk in on you -- the massage
therapist always knocks and asks if you are ready before entering the massage room.
5) Should I talk to the massage therapist during the massage?
some people prefer to talk throughout the massage, don't feel like you have to make conversation
with the massage therapist. After all, you're having a treatment, you're not at a cocktail party!
Feel free to close your eyes and relax, which is what most people do.
6) What if I get an erection during the massage?
Some men don't get massage therapy because they worry that they'll get an erection.
Or they get the massage, but are unable to relax during the massage because of this fear. But there is no reason to be embarrassed. It's perfectly normal for men to get an erection during
a non-sexual, therapeutic massage.
Gentle touch administered to any area of the body can activate the parasympathetic
nervous system and cause a partial or full erection. Your massage therapist (male or female) understands this and will generally ignore it.
If you are still worried, you may wish to wear a men's bikini bathing suit
during the massage, which provides more support than boxers.
7) How do I know if it's a legitimate massage clinic?
Although you might think massage parlors that offer sensual or erotic massage
may look obviously seedy, it can be sometimes be difficult to spot these places.
If you're trying a new clinic or spa, it's a good idea to call first and ask these
• Do you offer
• Is the massage
therapist certified or licensed?
• Do you require
a health questionnaire of your clients?
A licensed massage therapist will not come into contact with your genitals
or nipples during the massage.
8) The pressure isn't deep enough, but I don't want to insult the massage therapist's
technique. What should I do?
Communicate openly with the massage therapist. Keep in mind however that it's
a myth that massage therapy has to hurt to be effective.
Some of the most effective types of massage therapy are gentle and do not involve
deep pressure or pain. In fact, too much pressure can cause muscles to seize up.
Here is a good rule of thumb - on a scale of one to 10 where one is no pain
and 10 is extremely painful, the pressure should always be less than seven.
9) I'm self-conscious about a certain part of my body and don't want the massage
therapist to see me. What can I do?
People are self-conscious for various reasons. Some of the more common concerns are:
• I'm overweight.
• I have excessive
hair growth on my body.
• I've got
acne on my face or back.
• My feet are
• I have scars.
Being self-conscious should never keep you from seeking health care, whether
it's visiting your doctor or seeing a massage therapist.
If you're self-conscious about a certain part of your body, you can ask the
massage therapist to avoid that area.
Or, you can opt for a therapy that is done through clothing, such as shiatsu or Thai massage.
Because no massage oil or lotion is used, you remain fully clothed during the session.
You can even bring your own comfortable clothes to wear. Just
remember to provide complete and accurate information on your health history form, so that the
massage therapist is aware of any precautions or contraindications.
10) I'd rather see a female massage therapist. Should I request this?
Some men don’t feel comfortable having a massage by a male massage therapist.
It may be due to outdated social and media stereotypes of the profession or the fear of getting
an erection during the massage.
Erection is a common physiological response that happens when the parasympathetic
nervous system is activated by touch anywhere on the body.)
Some women also prefer a female massage therapist because they say they feel
more comfortable. This doesn't just apply to massage therapy. A University
of Michigan study found that 43 percent of women preferred a female doctor for a colonoscopy. Of
these women, 87 percent said they would be willing to wait more than 30 days to get an appointment
with a female colonoscopist, and 14 percent would be willing to pay more for one.
Unfortunately, men who choose to become massage therapists are often unprepared
for the discrimination they face. When clients request female over male therapists, spas stop hiring them, however skilled they are.
That's why I believe it's important to challenge your preconceptions.
Here are some tips to help you:
you see other practitioners in the clinic or spa, ask if you could meet the massage therapist before
you book the appointment.
booking a massage at a health club or a clinic, where there's usually a higher percentage of male
clientele and staff.
may wish to start with an active form of massage, such as deep tissue or sports massage or a type of massage that is done fully clothed, such as shiatsu or Thai